When You're Everything to Everyone—Except Each Other: How Coaching Can Help Parents Reconnect
Parenting, Partnership, and the Pressure to Do It All
You love your kids. You love your partner. You want to be good at your job, keep the house from falling apart, and maybe even squeeze in a few hours of sleep. But lately, it feels like you’re doing everything—and somehow, nothing quite right.
This is the silent struggle so many families face: trying to meet the endless demands of parenting while keeping a marriage or partnership alive. And if you're reading this from somewhere in Rhode Island—maybe from your car outside Target, or during your fifth attempt to make dinner—you’re not alone.
I see you.
The Invisible Load of Parenting and Partnership
Raising young kids is exhausting. There's no clock-out time, no lunch break, and no weekend off. Even when you’re physically present with your partner, you might feel emotionally miles apart.
You’re managing:
Tantrums, nap schedules, homework, and screen time limits
Emails, meetings, deadlines, and performance reviews
Laundry, dishes, bills, and that leaky faucet that still isn’t fixed
And somewhere in the blur: your relationship
By the time the kids are in bed, you’re running on fumes. Maybe you collapse on opposite ends of the couch and scroll your phones in silence. Maybe the only conversations you have revolve around logistics: “Did you pack the lunches?” “Can you grab milk?” “Who’s picking up from soccer?”
Intimacy fades. Resentment builds. And even though you still care deeply about each other, it starts to feel like you're more roommates than lovers.
Sound Familiar? It Doesn’t Have to Stay This Way
Many Rhode Island couples seek therapy only when things hit a crisis point. But the truth is, early intervention saves relationships. It’s not about blaming or dredging up the past—it’s about learning how to navigate the stress together, instead of drifting apart.
As a family therapist in Rhode Island, I work with parents who are in exactly this season of life: tired, stretched thin, and trying to find their way back to each other.
What We Work on in Couples Therapy for Parents
Every relationship is different, but here are some of the most common issues we address in couples counseling for families:
Uneven division of labor and mental load
Feeling unappreciated or unseen
Loss of physical or emotional intimacy
Communication breakdowns and chronic irritability
Parenting disagreements
Feeling like you're living parallel lives
We create a space where both partners can speak honestly and safely—without judgment. Together, we build practical tools to improve communication, reestablish connection, and make shared decisions about your relationship and your parenting.
You don’t have to wait until you're arguing every day or fantasizing about leaving. You can start now.
Therapy Is a Gift You Give Your Whole Family
When the relationship between parents improves, the entire family benefits. Kids thrive in homes where parents are emotionally in sync. And you, as individuals, deserve to feel supported, connected, and whole—not just as parents, but as partners.
If you’re in Newport, East Greenwich, Providence, or anywhere in Rhode Island, and you're feeling overwhelmed trying to juggle parenting, work, and your relationship, I invite you to reach out.
You're not failing. You're just carrying too much without enough support.
Let’s change that.
Looking for a Rhode Island family therapist?
I offer counseling for couples, individuals, and families navigating the complexities of parenthood and partnership. Virtual and in-person sessions available.
